Hi I'm Rebecca, here's a little bit of my expat story .... 

I'm a proud New Zealander, an avid traveller, a Mum of 3 gorgeous teenagers, a want to be trail runner, a foodie in training, a transformative coach, a very supportive spouse and as a result I believe I can now say change expert too ! 

My husband was offered a role in Vietnam and we left New Zealand in 2021 for a 3-5 year posting (we wanted an adventure and we definitely got one with that timing !)   Somehow that has turned into 3 different countries in the last 5 years and losing our eldest to boarding school along the way.  It has been exciting, chaotic, challenging and amazing.  And often all at once. 

I am the biggest advocate for this lifestyle and I’ll be forever grateful for this season of our life. 

BUT at the same time it is difficult and there are so many aspects that are often not spoken about.  The actual move logistics logically  fall on the spouse, while the working partner is immersed in their new role and responsibilities. Then there is organising your own work, settling the kids, building the homes and the social networks, co-ordinating travel schedules, juggling visitors, navigating the local ways and figuring out at the same time what you need to be able to live your life in a meaningful way.

Over time and different countries I have had to make difficult decisions like sell out of the business I had spent the previous 4 years building; search for interesting alternatives to work as visa situations didn't enable me to get a job; take unfulfilling roles in my industry ' just because it was all that was available'.  It has also taken time to find my people over and over again. 

From the outside, life looked good. Inside, I felt guilty because I wasn't content.  I felt disconnected from myself and unsure who I was becoming outside of my old professional persona.  How did I fit into this expat lifestyle and who was I to even complain?

Working with a coach was the turning point. 

It gave me space to slow down, hear my own thoughts, and reconnect with what truly mattered to me — not just as a partner or parent, but as my own person. I dug deep into my values and my belief system. I began to understand what was missing and how I could create a life that felt like mine again.  

My journey the last few years, my lived experience, the opportunity to work in the personal development space and the joy I get from helping people is why I have trained as an ICF accredited coach. I love working with expat spouses, either through the messy bits of the actual relocation, in a practical and goal oriented way, or through a deeper, transformative experience to support them in finding how they can live their own 'Best Expat Life'.

So, for now, here we are in Singapore having arrived via Ho Chi Minh City and London.  Loving our time exploring the city and region, welcoming our friends and family when they visit, building community and making the most of all the opportunities that come our way. 

You can contact me via WhatsApp +65 91621613 or at rebecca@mybestexpatlife.com if you'd like to find out more about how we could work together.